Barbsing1, i know this is a very tough time for you, I am not one to give advise as I have yet to do anything right in my situation. Just stay strong in your decision. Let him know he cant have his cake and eat it to.
Focus on yourself first and then your children next. I will tell you from experience, your kids will pick up on your vibes and they will try to do things to keep you occupied and busy. They are great that way.
My thoughts are with you in this time. The pros will give you some advice and i strongly recommend you listen to them.
