Its funny. I think she really struggles to say what she means. Complaints I've heard: - pick on her too much (I think I'm funny, and tease a little) - spend too much time with friends - not affectionate enough - controlling - manipulative - emotionally cruel
I could write a book defending myself, but I have been very introspective, and really feel many of these are off base. Things that sting that she HASN'T said: - No fun anymore - lost touch with friends/ never do anything - wimpy/ doormat (I'm very much "sure, whatever you want" on any of the small stuff) - not as physically attractive (went very bald, weight is OK but not as in shape as when we met)
I don't want to ignore what she says, but do feel that she is missing her own issues, or maybe doesn't know how to state them.
