H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[ericmsant2]

Mila,

I know that eventually this will pass...but hurry up already...it's been over a year and I'm still in this pressure cooker...

So how do you get out of the pressure cooker?

I need to establish few things so I can make some plans....a job would be nice...that would be a start....still looking...shortlisted for one...crossing my fingers.

Good luck on the job front. From what I hear in certain industries the market is starting to pick up. IMO, easy off on the pressure that you are applying to yourself (note to myself – Eric please take your own advice). The holidays are coming up and some companies may want to wait until after the holiday season before they start to pick up new head count.

you wouldn't want my H to adopt you right now, he can't even take care of himself.

I can take care of myself <insert video clip of Eric jumping up and down like a child>…I only need the cash for the car <insert huge smile>

Well my D was saving for the past 4 years for that car and we made a commitment to her (pre-bomb) that we will match whatever she saves....so I'm jumping through loops to make that happen....actually I offered to cover it from the proceeds of the house once it's sold.

Kudos to your D for being able to save for 4 years. My 16 YO will spend 25 bucks when he only has 20 in his pocket. The fact that you are “jumping through hoops” to HONOR YOUR commitment is a clear example of who Mila is!

And this is not frivolous...she really needs the car...

I never thought it was frivolous. Why do you? Hmmm… something inside of you sayin anything to YOU? Oh, and EVEN if I thought it was frivolous – should you really care? Just askin…

and H is totally unreliable.

Oh…I get it…boy do I get it.

I did buy the car with D today, she was so happy...

Congrats! What color?

all H said to D is congratulations....seems like something a stranger would say.

Ahhh….I can apply one of my fav saying here….”f*ck ‘em” . He will come to realize all that he is missing one day.

As for the R between you and your D….Enjoy ever second of it! She is learning so much from you Mila. Strength, dignity, courage, responsibility, honor, COMMITMENT and…..LOVE. Be proud of yourself Mila.

Eric