If that's true it is really good. Start acting like it is right now!! If not perhaps this will help her to realise it would be a good decision.
Seems like a shame you cannot trust your W. I suppose that trust is a thing that will have to be rebuilt. It's true your W has problems, but is she really that manipulative? Would she pretend to love you and then completely screw you over? You need to think about that.
