I've been reading other posts at other threads and wonder....
The changes I am making are really only half for me and half to get W back. It's only been 3-1/2 weeks since the bomb, so I am still trying to pull myself together. But I am having difficulty imagining life after D and setting goals for myself with that possiblity in mind.
Right now I have one goal, that is to somehow help W doubt her decision to end the M. In time as things proceed I'll think about life after D. However, for the sake of the kids S11 and D16 we're still in the same house and even in the same bed.
Coach has told me I have to re-connect with W emotionally: reflective listening, validating, active listening, attentive but not pursuing, all the do's and don'ts. Coach said W has to once again regard me as being her best friend and partner. It's going to be really, really difficult with no guarantee of success, so I feel like I'm shooting craps with my own emotions.
Please, please keep me in your prayers as I will all of you.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
