It seems my old thread has been locked. Thanks for the replies and such.
Time to update on this new thread.
Blackrook is hot right now. W told me that she had called her attorney to cancel hearing. I called a buddy in the court office to find nothing has been cancelled. I hope there is a mistake and this isn't an attempt at deception.
Yesterday around 9:00AM. I felt a vibe coming from the W. It was confusion and a little anger. More confusion. She came home to tell me she had to be taken to the doctor because her blood pressure shot up and she blacked out. I felt this for a couple hours. When she told me, the time frame was the same as her incident.
I now wonder if this was caused by her possible attempt to trick me. She knows if I don't show, I will be ordered to bend over and grab my ankles. I pray this isn't the case. I really do. If I have to go to something she said I wouldn't have to go to, I'm going to make it worth my while.
Blackrook: Are you represented by an attorney? If not, you should be. DBing doesn't mean you lay down and give up. People can get really ugly in Ds, and, even if you ultimately get back together, you still want to protect yourself.
Quote: Blackrook: Are you represented by an attorney? If not, you should be. DBing doesn't mean you lay down and give up. People can get really ugly in Ds, and, even if you ultimately get back together, you still want to protect yourself.
Yep. BR has a lawyer as well as several family members who work in the court system in town. He will know when this is taken care of. I talked to W. She claims she signed the papers and MAILED them to her attorney on Monday. Maybe true maybe not. We'll see. You guys will be proud of me. I didn't flip out or anything like that. Just talked and asked and moved on to other topics. She talked a long time about other things. That was good.
If that's true it is really good. Start acting like it is right now!! If not perhaps this will help her to realise it would be a good decision.
Seems like a shame you cannot trust your W. I suppose that trust is a thing that will have to be rebuilt. It's true your W has problems, but is she really that manipulative? Would she pretend to love you and then completely screw you over? You need to think about that.
Quote: If that's true it is really good. Start acting like it is right now!! If not perhaps this will help her to realise it would be a good decision.
Seems like a shame you cannot trust your W. I suppose that trust is a thing that will have to be rebuilt. It's true your W has problems, but is she really that manipulative? Would she pretend to love you and then completely screw you over? You need to think about that.
I'm half way believe that she did mail this stuff in. She's in the businss world and knows that a fax is better in these situations. The other night, she said she didn't have an idea which way I would swing and she wanted to wait until the last minute. My contact at the court said it could be stopped within a couple hours of the hearing or WE could just not show. We'll see.
W is pulled so tight she's going to snap soon. Yesterday during the morning, I felt a vibe coming from her. A lot of confusion and angst. It stayed with me until early afternoon. I was tempted to call and should have but I thought she was mad as she didn't reply to my emails(I put in the wrong email addy as I just got them back today). It turns out her blood pressure spiked and she fell out. It took a couple hours to get it squared away. Later in the afternoon, I felt her let down and dissapointed and said.I nearly shed a tear. She just told something she wanted wasn't what she was led to believe it would be and may be worse for her. Job related. Later, I felt a fear spike in her. She just told me she had problems on her 2nd job with a crazy guy. I sometimes wish she could feel me as much as I feel her. She says she doesn't and hasn't for awhile. I do something silly like send waves down the connection to her.
As the world turns Blackrook style I guess. I'm off a day or two next week. I was thinking of putting together a basket type thingy for her and just drop it past her job. I don't think I'll stay and may not take credit for it but it's the thought not the glory I reckon.
Quote: I was thinking of putting together a basket type thingy for her and just drop it past her job. I don't think I'll stay and may not take credit for it but it's the thought not the glory I reckon.
Geeze, BR. Give her some space. You ought to be making basket thingys for yourself, for a change. Just my .02.
Quote: Seems like a shame you cannot trust your W. I suppose that trust is a thing that will have to be rebuilt....Would she pretend to love you and then completely screw you over? You need to think about that.
Trust is something that is earned, not just handed out. Once trust has been broken, it is a lot of tests before you start putting yourself at risk. I think that right now your W doesn't even know which side is up. Play with caution my friend.
Normally I would agree but I think you should be a bit nice to her right now because of the health problems. Give her something she would definately like (don't know what you're planning to put in the basket) and let her know it's from you. You do want to get a little credit. Also watch out for wolves on the way to deliver the basket, you can tell them by the big teeth.
Quote: she didn't have an idea which way I would swing
Hey Jiji. Just bounced in before I do my worker bee running today. I think I will put something together. Yea, I know how to put things together in a basket. I learned this from watching the W do it. She wants to make it a living but.......
Anyway, I think I will put a spa gift cert and maybe a small Boyds type bear in a small container with flowers. I'll just drop it off on my way to another hearing I have and just keep going .Yea, I know what you're going to say. It's not the manicures.Jiji, did I mention I'm going to get my ear re-pierced today? It was pierced until I took a my former job that had a no guy ear pierced dress code. Just a little more ammo for you. .
Hair. I did make me a basket thingy for a friend. I liked it so much I made one for myself without the basket. Around this time of the year, I make my own Bailey's Irish Cream. I go through too much to buy it. So after making something up for a friend to give to her dude. I decided to hook myself up. I was feeling good last night as I made the basket up.
Grip et al. My trust for her in certain situation has dropped. Over all trust on a scale of 1-10 has dropped to a 5 or 6. It's down there for two reasons, one I want to be ready for a slick move by her. The second reason is her mind is all over the world and she is forgetting to do things. I always watch my 6. I hope for the best but prepare for the worse.
Small update.
Ole BR thought he may get a chance to spark with W. Women in lunch bunch gigged me up to make a move on her. The weather here was the same as my story. I was all ready to do my thing when I get a call at work. D was back in town early. Don't get me wrong, I miss the kid but.... W and I went out to eat and rap about things. Mostly listening to her. She wanted a fire. I kept catching her staring at me while I was starting it. I think memories of the first fire I started here came back as she looked at a smudge spot on the ceiling that's still there. It wasn't a good fire. I noticed her watching me in the fire light as well. I felt two vibes from her. A good one and sad at the same time.
BR: I knew I liked you for a reason--I make my own Bailey's too! In fact, I just made a batch right before Halloween and I need to make some more before Christmas. I also make Kahlua and Amaretto. I think I should write an additional chapter in the SSM book for Michele. It would be titled, "If all else fails get your spouse rip roaring drunk and take advantage of them."
About your wife.........dammit, Blackie, make your move. I know you are unsure of her reaction but so what? Don't sit back and do nothing and reinforce what she has been saying and thinking about you all along! I know she told you to leave her alone, but your own vibes are telling you that she doesn't mean it.
I read something that Dr. Ruth wrote the other day and I thought of you. It was about turtles and how they use their shells for total protection, HOWEVER they can't move with them on. If they want to move forward they must stick their neck out.
So get out of that shell and stick it out!!
I know that she has hurt you, but you have to remember that you have both hurt each other and you are being the strong person right now while she flounders to keep up with your strength. Give her some of that Bailey's and report back to me on Monday.
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