How do I deal with now he's overseas?

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Gatsby, it's so good to have you back. I think our little girls will understand what we went through. When the time comes, we will talk about it. When they are older.

I agree, some interesting new voices here... I have been popping my head over to MLC and I really like the attitude there. Some deep thinkers at work.

Newmama - parental alienation is something I would never want to happen to my baby. She will want to know her father, she will love in in spite of what he did to us. It's nature. I've been there. My Dad left us, and I love him and need him. He's helping me through my own sitch now. Both parents are needed.


Eric, your posts are awesome and give me so much to think about, and comfort too. Thank you.

Yes, I've read the DB books (been here 10 months, alas) and Codependent No More and Boundaries are what I'm reading at the moment. Loving the Boundaries book.

I cannot believe your own Dad left 20 bucks on the table - that's about as inadequate as it gets. You were only 23 when your first child was born? Well, 23 is so young... you had an excuse, and you are making up for it.

My H is 40. He has a lot of work to do. He is trying to do better that his own father. I guess that's how it often starts out...

Anyway, thankyou for reminding me that it is my H's job to nurture the relationship. I will open doors, but only in so much that it doesn't hurt me. To begin with, I might only open it up a crack, then a bit more as I get stronger.

NO is an underrated word. We're always being told to say YES to things, but that leaves us so often running on empty.

I'm not adverse to the FB idea. Are there other sites out there that are less well known but do a similar thing? Wouldn't mind shopping around.