Wife abandoned me...Now What?

[MrBond]

"If her family keeps on her and refuses to ever accept OM then I think she will eventually give him up."

Nope. There have been more times than not here on the boards that show that even when there was exposure to the family, they didn't do anything. It worked in a handful of cases, but I don't see it happening very often. I think that's why DR tells you to not involve family. I think you could tell them, but don't expect them to get involved. They'll usually side with blood.

So Mike, a couple of questions...
Is this guy older? Has he been married before? The thing is that it seems like your W and you have been together when you were both pretty young. Not saying that's a reason for a divorce, but like all marriages, sometimes things get "comfortable".

You know he's pushing all of the right buttons. Do you two live together still? Have you laid any boundaries at all?

She's like a renewed teenager and you're the bothersome father. Or at least that's how she sees you now. First and foremost, whatever changes you made or are making are for YOU and you alone. She has to get the vibe that you're not doing it for her. That you are your own man. That you are confident and not needy.

You've got the gift of time on your side where you know her better than this guy. Start writing those things out and apply them in small doses to her so it doesn't seem clingy. Meanwhile go out and live your life. What makes YOU happy?