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[MrBond]

CK,

I was waiting for a response from marnie, not you. Look I've been on these boards awhile and I've seen the people on here, other places and firsthand who have dealt with sexual addiction.

And it seemed in this situation to be a little tame which is why I asked. The tolerance level of the spouse also has alot to do with it. To some couples a little porn isn't that big a deal. Now I'm not saying it's the same here, but that's why I was asking for a little clarification.

Some people might call looking at the SI swimsuit edition porn or going to Hooters porn. There are some men (and women) who don't mind going to strip clubs but remain faithful to their spouses. It may not match with your definition of faithful, but they don't necessarily mess around. The majority know how to keep the two lives separate.

I'm not dismissing this at all. I was just asking for some clarification.

From your well thought out post above it seems you don't tolerate porn at all. That's fine. It just seems pretty condemning based on the short sitch we were given.

"he looks so ashamed and i feel bad that im making him feel bad"

So in what ways do you make him feel bad? Do you flat our condemn and embaress him or do you talk about it?