H's MLC - he is still lost but I found myself

[Mila]

Thank you Alb, Eric & SA

Alb - They are missing things that they will never get back...their children don't stop growing just because they are in MLC...he is missing important events in D's life....

Eric - Thanks hon, I know that eventually this will pass...but hurry up already...it's been over a year and I'm still in this pressure cooker...I need to establish few things so I can make some plans....a job would be nice...that would be a start....still looking...shortlisted for one...crossing my fingers.

Eric - LOL you wouldn't want my H to adopt you right now, he can't even take care of himself.

You are probably wondering...she is complaining about not having money, but buying teenager a car. Well my D was saving for the past 4 years for that car and we made a commitment to her (pre-bomb) that we will match whatever she saves....so I'm jumping through loops to make that happen....actually I offered to cover it from the proceeds of the house once it's sold.

And this is not frivolous...she really needs the car...once I get a job downtown I'll be gone all day and she has to be able to get to school, work, her sport...we live in a sleepy suburb and public transportation is difficult...and H is totally unreliable.

SA - Same here...never in my dreams did I think that H would leave me with all of this on my shoulders....he always had my back and me his...we were a team...I still can't get my head around that one.

I did buy the car with D today, she was so happy...all H said to D is congratulations....seems like something a stranger would say.
To me he sent an email...every sentence started with WE...we wanted to buy her..we thought...WE WE WE...well where was HE when I did all the hard work with her and made it all happen for her? At the end of the e-mail he said "I'm happy for her" well good for you...