Grit, hope you don't mind if I reply to Eric here.......I'm glad these examples were helpful to you.
Yes, it is hard to take the "high road" but keeping the lines of communication open has many benefits. H/XH and I BOTH treated each other with respect.......I got to see who the real H/XH was through his actions. In spite of being emotionally distraught, he still treated me with consideration and respect. This is one of the reasons I had continued to keep him on a pedestal..........More recently, as I've been cycling and considering the possibility of walking away from XH, I've realized that because XH and I worked so hard to be considerate of one another through the D process, I haven't gone through the deep, deep grieving that I would have if XH wasn't still in my life in some way.
