She's in MLC, but I was weak. Now what?

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Thanks all. Cat I really appreciate your perspective and promise to read your entire thread and not just a few posts.

I really do feel better eventhough there's no progress with W. The skills are useful. I have been frustrated and angry recently, but I'm entitled to those feelings as long as they don't dominate my life and impair my judgement.

I wouldn't buy the book unless it was titled DB. Perhaps "Lessons for Boneheads" would have piqued my interest enough to pick it up. Or how 'bout "How to get laid again without paying for it." - emotionally of course.

E, your post was valuable to me but I thought MC only after the A ends would be my boundary. I don't know if I have the emotional fortitude to put all the emotions out there knowing she's not vested in completely sharing with me. There's the risk of all that water flowing over the stone.

In regard to Thanksgiving, some of her anger over her parents knowing our sitch must have subsided. I had a late night at work last night and over the phone I told her I had no interest in pi$$ing her off because my goal was to talk about our M.
Whether this made sense or not to her, I received another call today from her saying she told her folks that I was joining her. Biggest plus is I don't have to confront a holiday without my kids yet. Woohoo.