Surf, BND. Just surf. If you react, it keeps the bond going. The best advice I ever got was from a friend who told me not to say ANYTHING to XH unless it had one of the kids' names in it. Its helping a LOT.
Yep, one of the best things I did for myself was "drop the rope." Whenever something like this happens my immediate response is to want to fire off a nasty e-mail. But I wait at least 12 hours....and never end up sending it. I have to ask myself do I really want to engage the X in this battle....do I want to go down that cheeseless tunnel. NOPE! He is never going to admit he is wrong....even though I am pretty sure he knows he is wrong....and that's good enough. He doesn't answer the phone cuz he is afraid or embarassed or ashamed or whatever he is...but he's not man enough to answer the phone, and I can live with that! LOL
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
