I was in your shoes a couple of years ago. I thought my W would never soften up, etc.
Lately she's been very nice and has acted like her old self when we first married. I know my changing has changed her. We don't argue, we are more than friendly with each other and she's starting to open up a little more with each interaction.
For me it's taken ALOT of time and patience.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.