thank you Eric. Your responses are the very reason (voice of reason) I need to hear. I don't think I'm in piecing either. Its just weird to live the life of a married person with no real marriage to work on. My H is very depressed right now so temperature-taking is out, IMO. He seem happy with the status quo. I stopped doing his laundry, cooking for him and running to the dry cleaners etc.. all the things I did before. He seems perfectly happy with this arrangement. Its a perfect, platonic relationship, for him. Hes obviously NOT READY to piece. Meanwhile, I make plans to do things with my friends and family. I joined a support group for codependants. I am revisiting my opinion on a spiritual life. So I am making myself happy and fullfilled without him. We have historically had a regular Saturday afternoon gig where we have drinks at the local pub with friends then head out to dinner. I now say, I am going to do so and so, do you want to come. His response," of course, naturally ". We still do our every Tues and Fri night dinners also. We talk, laugh have a great time together then go home and go to sleep.
