Flowmom, the last paragraph of this has really struck me. I think I may have been in the same position. I am not sure I was ever 'real' with XH, well at least not in the last few years. I always felt so judged for how I felt or for what I needed. Maybe if I had not been so defensive all the time, but rather just said this is me, this is what I need, can you be there for me.

It has given me food for thought.

Me 37 years young!!
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