I must have lasting self-esteem issues and self-confidence. Although some it is finally being "smacked in the face" and having a awaking to the problems. I was oblivious for years, and the "hints and signs" that my W was giving me didn't register with me.
Now I know, and I understand I have a number of things I HAVE to FIX:
1) I need to find my own happiness (if it's possible)
3) I need to address the existing issues with my parents.
5) I need to be confident and self assured.
I'm really scared though
Scared,
Sounds like you have identified some major issues for yourself. Admitting your scared means to me that your self worth MIGHT be based on your Wife staying with you. Not entirely a problem, but fear of something can create bad behavior/tendencies that can sabotage even the hardest of self work.
You definitely need to read Divorce Remedy and maybe even DB.
You seem very serious about changing yourself and that is the major step here. On your list, #1, #3, and #5 stands out to me, because I suffer from similar issues. I found one book to be an absolute eye opener to these issues for me and really helped me to be "Aware" of where these issues came from.
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