W called me after she said was going to call me back last wed. after she took a shower...
That was a looooooong shower.
Of course it's about $. I did he taxes and we filed separately and she got a refund of $500.
Problem is they applied it to our unpaid balance from '08.
So "her" $ got applied and she is in a bad spot blah blah blah.
I tell her I can't send her any $ right now.
W: That's not fair! You are spending your $ on going to weddings etc. Going out whatever!
HERE IT COMES...I SH!T YOU NOT
W: You're living in fantasy land over their with your parents and living it up. I am just trying to survive!
Me: Look I am sorry you feel that way...You know a lot of things aren't fair. It is not really my responsibility for where you are right now. And it is not really any of your concern what I am doing with my life right now. I tried to get you the refund I didn't know they would apply it to unpaid balance. I am sorry.
W: It is my concern when your life effects me. I paid for a lot of things....
This is why our M does't work because you are so stubborn!
Ok so here is where I know this is going no where right? cause this is just F@cked up logic...
Me: I am sorry for where you are right now I am really am. I am not going to argue with you about our past $ or our M because that makes no sense. Until we both decide to commit to working on our problems. I sure don't want our old M so I agree with you.
Silence...tears....
me: I will put my half of our taxes into your account as soon as I can.
Silence
W?
Yes.
OK? I am sorry you are having such troubles I will let you know when I put the $ in.
Ok...
Me: I'll talk to you later.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
OK? I am sorry you are having such troubles I will let you know when I put the $ in.
This ^^^^^ my friend is the gift that this whole process has given me (sorry to make this about me...chit maybe I too am having a crisis - lol)
My point is....An angry, bitter, resentful LBS/as*hole would say F*ck you W! A man of character would do what you just did. Since actions speak louder than words, my only other comment would be to deposit the money as soon as you can.
FWIW, I'm proud of you bro! Proud and happy to know ya!
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
So I put the $ in half of the tax that got applied. And I took it in the a$$ for all of 09 taxes.
You're welcome...
AND
As I am transferring the $ and I remember I have to pay off her bank account deficit of <$250> so I can be a check signer in my new business checking account. It was a joint account.
Of course I didn't remind her of THAT.
SHEEEEEESH!
I text her: I tranferred $250.
W texted: Grit I really appreciate it. Im sorry if I freaked out on you. I realize that I am coming from fear not logic. I know that u are not evil or selfish, I may have over reacted. I apologize for directing my anger toward you.
Really?
THAT cost me $250?????
If I can get her down to maybe a $.25 I actually might consider reconciling at some point.
I hope you guys are enjoying this as much as I am.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
FTR....I sooooo want to have fun with this one^^^^
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
