BI - We understand that you are hurting, but if you are going ignore the advice given here then why even post?
You have been advised to stop contacting her. Stop pleading with her. Stop asking her about her R with OM. Do you enjoy being kicked in the balls?
Listen to what Sandi and others have said. She doesnt RESPECT you. I would go as far as saying she probably tells her BF that you are weak and make her sick. Why fight for a person like this? It's time that you stand up for yourself and your family. What would you do if your daughter or son was being treated like this by somebody? Im guessing we'd see a different MAN.
I know this is hard, but you need to take a stand for YOU and your FAMILY. Go see an attorney asap. Seperate your finances. Cut her off. SHow her you will not be DISRESPECTED like this. Until you do she will not even consider a future with you.