What's da haps, man?

[soleil]

Thanks for the "manly" point of views. It's much appreciated.

In my opinion he wants the D to go through before working on your relationship because he KNOWS HE CAN'T COMMIT.

Excellent point.

Why would you want to be with someone and potentially start a family with someone who is not 100% committed and can potentially do this again in the future?

And once again, same "committment" point is made. Good stuff.

Sol, I don't know if you plan to have kids but it's not a walk in the park and even the best of marriages are challenged when a kid comes into the picture. If he thinks M is a responsibility that he feels is 'looming over his head' then how would he feel about the much greater responsibiltiies in the future- potentially?.

Had never thought of that this way before. Lightbulb.

'D is not the end of our M, it's the end of us. I WILL NOT be there when our M is gone. It's the end of everything we ever had together'.

As Beyonce' would say You must not know 'bout me I could have another you in a minute Matter fact, he'll be here in a minute...'

Great response. Love the Beyonce touch on the end.

When his words don't reel you back in everytime he says something to you is when you know you've detached.

Noted! I deleted all of his recent texts this morning. Going dark again!

My mother is back home which is nice, after the scare.

I've got 1 exam this week. I cannot wait til this semester is over!