It makes me feel sad and angry to think that throughout my relationship I have tried to work with my partner to help him feel loved and connected - to the point where it had the complete opposite effect for me, instead of loving him more deeply, I love him less (if you can even measure love). Obviously I am still working on it, but it seems like he sabotages my efforts. I know he doesn't mean to...
Do you think there is a way that I could help him understand that I do love him and am making efforts but that a change in approach or perspective on his part would greatly benefit our relationship? I mean, some of you HD posters have managed to make change in your relationship, but it sounds like it really took a turning point in your belief about the situation to truly bring about that change - so how can I assist my partner in coming to that realization that you have had?
