Glad I could crack you up sol!;) Check out the text I got this morning...
"Good morning, just wanted to let you know I sent an email to you with questions about holiday plans. Have a good day. The girls are very excited to see you!"
I have not said a single word to her in 9 days and the words I did say to her were very direct. "Good morning" and "have a good day" in one text??? Wow, I think she is clueless!
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Maybe she is treating you as she'd like to be treated? That's what I do with STBX regardless of how he treats me.
Just being the devil's advocate.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Flowmom, I did think about that after I wrote it and thought maybe I am too harsh. It just pisses me off that she still shows no emotion. No matter what I do she is always this way. Yes, I am pushing her buttons but I am also doing what I want to do for a change. I will chill out again but I don't know when.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
guilt perhaps? my exh is way more fuzz than I am--always wishing me a good night or payimg a compliment about stuff (not flirty)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
It could defeinitely be the guilt. If you don't feel like you've reached a place yet where you can be "friendly" with her just because, then don't. Keep it 'co-parenting' only.
I was very friendly with her and we were getting along very well but when it came down to it I was only doing it for the purpose of rebuilding OUR relationship. When I found out she was dating someone during that time I decided to cut all contact with her. I need to respond back to her email about the holidays but that is all. All the other messages she has sent about wishing good luck at the competition, telling me to have a good day, etc., I have ignored those.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
I was very friendly with her and we were getting along very well but when it came down to it I was only doing it for the purpose of rebuilding OUR relationship. When I found out she was dating someone during that time I decided to cut all contact with her.
That makes sense and is totally understandable. Have you worked out the holiday schedule w/ her yet?
