What's da haps, man?

[AtTheEnd?]

STBX says he still really loves me, I caused a lot of heart damage to him, that he will never get M'ed again, but that
STBX says that "it's too late" for us to go back since we've already plopped $ down for Ls so we should just go thru with it. That after all is said and done that we can work on our relationship, after the D, that is, and we won't have the
'responsibility of M' looming over us... that we could even move in right together after everything is finalized and that "If you really care about me, Sol, you'll stop seeing/hanging out with other people [in the interim]" *implying HG*, obviously. I ask "So you want to D and then work on us?" And he says Yes, very calmly.

Um, what? This sounds like BS to me. I do not want CRUMBS. If I wanted CRUMBS I would just find me a sidepiece for occasional fun and call it a day. It's a M, not a thing you end to then later work on a R w/o a dang M anymore to speak of.

Anyone else think this sounds crazy?

I'm getting something that is very similar to this. I'm extremely baffled by the need to end the marriage to work on anything.