^ Yes, apparently The Script is not gender-specific.
So the latest is... I spoke to stbx a lot yesterday (yes, IR, I do engage him and that is my own fault). He received paperwork I'd filled out that his L requested & objected and he was very upset that I'd said things that I had. He said "That stuff is personal, Sol." And a divorce is not? Dios mio. My gosh...
STBX says he still really loves me, I caused a lot of heart damage to him, that he will never get M'ed again, but that STBX says that "it's too late" for us to go back since we've already plopped $ down for Ls so we should just go thru with it. That after all is said and done that we can work on our relationship, after the D, that is, and we won't have the 'responsibility of M' looming over us... that we could even move in right together after everything is finalized and that "If you really care about me, Sol, you'll stop seeing/hanging out with other people [in the interim]" *implying HG*, obviously. I ask "So you want to D and then work on us?" And he says Yes, very calmly.
Um, what? This sounds like BS to me. I do not want CRUMBS. If I wanted CRUMBS I would just find me a sidepiece for occasional fun and call it a day. It's a M, not a thing you end to then later work on a R w/o a dang M anymore to speak of.
Anyone else think this sounds crazy?
He wants his D, he can have it. But it seems insulting to me to tell me that after we have a D, then we can work on our relationship. Like I'm not good enough to be a wife but I'm good enough to live w/? Whaaat?
