What's da haps, man?

[ImprovedRomeo]

he doesn't believe I will ever meet anyone who loves me the way he does/did (?!)

I sure hope not!

More talk about the house, "if you want it you can have it Sol."

He sure has changed his stance now.

told him after D, there is no more "us." He told me to do what I had to do if I felt that is best...

Good, and that's all he can say. It takes time for these things to sink in. Now break contact and don't indulge him anymore. Let him do the thinking and then some real work if he means what he says. If not, you already know he's just manipulating you to keep you hanging by a thread just so he can have you as his backup option or so you can go easy on him during the D.

It's a lot of hurry up and talk sh-t, honestly. Nothing has changed. We have a nice conversation but the end result is always him saying D is the best thing. So I agree with him. It isn't what I want but I do not want to be w/ someone who doesn't want that. Moving forward, I'm not sure how'd we repair this cause he seems to not mention any of his faults... He seems to think it was all me. I'd rather be alone than in a constant fight. You can't be M'ed to someone who doesn't want to try to work things out. It's a one-sided R. And ti's a waste of time.

I like this. I like it a lot. It's your logical (as opposed to emotional) voice talking here. These are all red flags and you pointed them out yourself- that's great progress Sol.

Stbx was emo. abusive. I know that.

Fair enough. So what are you going to do? it can't be more of the same that doesn't work right? So no more exposing yourself to the emotional abuse and that starts with not allowing him to talk to you. You're done with talking, either you see action from him or you continue down the path you have i.e. rebuilding yourself and moving onward and upward.

So... I should prob stop talking to him but I did like our conversation today even if the result is the same. Felt clearer.

Yep