One of the things H and I talked about last night was that he thinks we are both too stubborn and that leads to a lot of arguments. I think a lot of this was me being insecure and unable to let anything go because I'd think "if he doesn't do it the way I want when I feel strongly about something then he doesn't love me." And that led to a downward spiral. This is something I recognize now, and I'll work with my IC to change that, but how can I show him that 180? The only thing we're really at odds about right now is pieces of the divorce settlement, and I'm not going to give up my rights just to make him happy. We've resolved every disagreement about furniture and "stuff" very easily.
