Fix me, fix my life, win back my wife

[ScaredinCanada]

Thanks FaithnAK,

I am sorry I am here, and I'm sorry for you as well. Thank you for the guidelines. I think in the first few days especially I DID everyone of the DON'TS...

I must have lasting self-esteem issues and self-confidence. Although some it is finally being "smacked in the face" and having a awaking to the problems. I was oblivious for years, and the "hints and signs" that my W was giving me didn't register with me.

Now I know, and I understand I have a number of things I HAVE to FIX:

1) I need to find my own happiness (if it's possible)
2) I need to focus on what's important (kids, wife, work, friends)
3) I need to address the existing issues with my parents.
4) I need to learn to be a more thoughtful and caring person.
5) I need to be confident and self assured.

I'm really scared though, I don't want to lose my wife and I don't want to seperate. I love her with every bit of my heart - and I feel physically ill when I think about the fact that she may no longer love me or want to be with me.