Originally Posted By: 2kh
says we got married young and he felt like he missed out on "living" and realized that randoms werent making him any happier.


This ^^^^^ has nothing to do with you.

It is has to do with his own demons and what is inside him.

BUT

You did contribute to the demise of your M.

In some ways.

What are his complaints against you. The ones that sting?

What is it that you don't like about yourself and what you became in the M?

Time to look at that.

Originally Posted By: 2kh
He wants me to keep ALL of this a secret. His mom said if he doesnt WORK this out---she will never respect him.


This is still part of HIS problem. His mom won't respect him?

He doesn't respect himself.

And it is not your job to figure that out for him.

YOU control YOU and YOU only.

So

What are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

What do you want and believe about yourself and your M?

Who you are. What are YOUR core values and integrity?

Why will you let someone compromise them?

Why would you let the actions or inaction of another decide what you want or believe?

When you answer these questions you begin to take the emotion and pain out of H's actions, words, and decisions.

Because they are YOUR answers.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am