re dating --I echo what Bond and sandi2 said. Full Honesty with the OP is mandatory from the get go.
In your sitch, maybe more than others, I see the possibility it would awaken your w but I just don't know if that is what YOU will want. What did you mean that FB ruined your m? Was that on your end or hers?
Just hoping if it was your end, that you've learned from it. If you were to recon with your w tomorrow what would be different about you?
And her? If you can say "m today would be way different now b/c of 'x' and 'y', that's good. But....If you cannot say anything would be really different, than you need to keep the work on you going, and you need to be realistic about your w;s efforts, or lack thereof. Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016