You guys are awesome, thanks a lot. I have read DB and gave been following it to the letter since Sept. I've come to the conclusion that it doesn't matter what I do. I have improved myself and am "Dad of the Year" right now and it's making her mad. She thinks I'm taking over and showing her up. Can't win.
Also, she wanted the separation, not me.
She has given me all the reasons why she's unhappy, but it comes down to the fact that this guy is everything I'm not: he has no kids, plenty of time/money/toys, shows her tons of attention (he doesn't parent any kids, let alone three) ... She's sick of cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and having no one care. Our life got to routine and stressful.
Her lying is so bad and cruel that today I finally met with a DA. I think now she's in more of a mid-life crisis than a WAW.
Her betrayal is so strong I don't know if I could ever forgive her, let alone trust her. And she's gone from the best mom in the world into one who isn't here -- even when she's here. The more I look at it; she's not just cheating on me, but on our three kids too.
She's so guilt ridden and confused now, that I'm afraid a confrontation will lead her to freak on me and do something stupid.
I think the only thing left for me to do now is file and hope that knocks some sense into her. Even if our marriage is gone, I want her to be a great wife to our kids.
I just can't decide if I confront her before I take that next step. I feel like I owe it to her, but at the same time I want to protect myself and my kids. Man, this is the last thing in the world that I wanted ... I'd much rather be married.
