Thanks Sandi. I know one thing i am doing now that is absolutely not working and that is not committing to anything. I am all over the board- I will try detaching for two days, then I will try to engage him for a few days, then I will try guilting him into working on it and then find myself back to detaching. Not being consistant with anything has to be a turn-off and makes what I doing more obvious. So you are right, a plan is what I need and the one that you suggested is probably the one that is healthiest for me.
