Sandi- You are right about both things that you said.I was trying to get him to stay around for a few minutes. I just didn't realize that it would be that obvious. And I do think he is functioning out of guilt. He has said over and over again that he "would do anything for me" but when it comes down to really doing anything for me, beyond changing lightbulbs or emptying the dishwasher he won't do it. So what is the best thing to do? I get so confused between divorce busting and affair busting. I have read stories- it seems like the people who are trying to end an affair completely cut the other person off. Is this the best way to go? Divorce busting seems to focus more on showing your best side, which is why i try to engage him in conversation. Your right I don't know what I am doing. An sometimes I wonder why i am even doing it. He had an affair, he only made a half hearted attempt at reconciliation when he ended it. Then he started lying again and contacting her. To be honest, I don't know how much is still going on except that I know he was emailing her and sent her a card and lied about it. Do I just have no chance as long as he is in contact with her? That is what is seems like anyway.
