I did the whole backing off thing today. Made dinner when she got home, played with the kid, had a pleasant/short conversation about her day, etc. I lied to her when she asked me how my day was (I basically was a wreck most of the day)
then she said something out of the blue. She said when she was driving home she was feeling bad. I thought it was about work, but she said "No it's about everything that's going on between us." Then she said she was questioning the decision to have a temp separation. I think she was actually thinking what it meant. (Hello divorce is certainly living apart) I just validated her feelings. I know she is cooling off from her anger, but I also know it doesn't change things. She also didn't call today as she usually does. She apologize for not calling. and I said. that's okay, we talked about it. Then she said "but I like talking to you."
I know it's early and I just want to read into everything, but I'm trying to be realistic here. and I've stopped the snooping. It's like when you drink too much of one liquor then you get sick if you thing about it. I feel the same now about snooping.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
