Oh flip! I accidently hit the submit button. Here's the rest of what I was trying to say:
KNOW what a WAW feels and I'm trying to paint you a picture of what not to do. She does not feel things like she once did. She will not feel sorry for you. The main thing she must feel right now.....is respect for you as a man. Forget about wanting to know if she loves you! She can't love you right now b/c she has no respect for you. A woman has to respect a man before she can feel love and sexual attraction. I'm telling you like it is and you better hear what I'm saying or she'll be gone. She's already left you--emotionally, sexually, every way but physical. She's closed her heart and the only thing that will cause it to open is respect.
A woman needs to have a strong leader for her family. How do you be a strong leader for your W...and for your children? What kind of man do you want your D to M some day? These are things to think about and to act upon.
Do not ask her any of those questions you listed. Stop it! Stop bringing up R talks. Your job is to show a side of yourself that spells self-confidence and keeping a PMA. You need to GAL so you will be more interesting....not b/c she says so. Stop asking her how she feels about things. If she decides to talk about the R, then you just listen. You do not argue with her! If you don't agree with what she says, then tell her you're sorry she feels that way. Keep it simple.
The WAW in an A will turn the tables and make the LBH think she's afraid of him, or that he's the one who left her a long time ago, or everything is his fault. Do you know the truth? Do you really, or have you allowed her to dictate to you what you're suppose to believe?
Stop telling her that you won't have her to leave. Don't tell her thatyou won't leave. Don't tell her that you'll pay her child support!
Listen, the only way most WAW's get their eyes open is to actually start suffering something due to their unfaithfulness. All you're doing is promising her that you will continue to provide for her. The best thing for you is just keep your mouth closed for a while. If she asks questions then tell her you'll have to check with your lawyer. If you don't want to say that, then tell her you will have to give it some thought.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
