How much of the OCD bothers your W? I'm wondering how big a part that has been over the years? Have you ever been in therapy for it?
You say you want to let her go,but you don't really. That's understandable. But here's the thing....you are scared to death and that is what she's seeing.
A WAW in an A needs a strong man. It is very important that she is not able to "use" him. If he buckles down under her dictation.....it won't work. If she sees any signs that makes you appear to be weak, she'll tear you apart. I understand depression and crying. But, don't cry in front of her. Do not let your children see you crying. That will cause them to be insecure and cause her to .....well, feel disgusted.
I said that on a post once and the LBH thought I was being rather hard, but I KNOW
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
