Thought i started a post somewhere...not sure if i did it right UGH....after being together 14 yrs my h said he wasnt happy---hasnt been and he slept with several randoms a few yrs back. he said he thought he was missing out on something since we got married young...but realized it wasnt making him happy. now we have 2 kids under the age of 3....he wants us to pretend we are happy for our exteneded family and our kids. we just moved away from our home town this year...now he was relocated to another state 4 mths ago. SO we have been going through a lot (apart for a year during pregnancy to find work...loss of a child...a lot!)...so when he told me he was unhappy...i was like..ok lets fix this. then he signed a lease for us to move to new state and then said WAIT i dont like it here...im asking for a transfer back not sure when but pls stay there and i want us to work this out there. he hates the new state. so i agreed. Now he dropped the bomb about everything else and said he loves me but doesnt think we could ever recover from it...and i said NO....although i am secretly hoping to forgive him and make him realize what he is giving up! he begged me to stay thru holidays so his family will THINK he tried...but i am planning on telling him NO...no more games- i dont owe him anything at this point...i WILL move back to our home town...but i will stay thru thanksgving...just because i need to figure out the details of my NEW life. He was here all weekedn hugging me holding me crying apologizing saying if i stay in town he will come back for thkgvg and we will go out and have fun. he is very confusing...i think he doesnt know what he wants....SO i am cutting him OFF! maybe just for now..then ill say he can see kids for thksgvg but not me...im afraid of it backfiring but i guess i have nothing to lose if he doesnt really want US anyway. any advice?
