Yes, I have a lawyer picked out who I really like. Until he files there is not much for me to do. My L did give me a list of homework to do. Mostly documents and financial records to copy. My IC is helping me to decide what to fight for realistically on behalf of my D3.
As far as wanting to know who is with my D3, I decided against it for those same reasons. It won't help with my detaching. Its nothing but a crazymaker.
