First of all it will get better and you will be fine. You have to be for your kids. Emotions follow thought, so think of the future and positive thoughts. No war. No more pursuing, and relationship talk. Let her go. Sure do 180's. You have found out some of the things that DO NOT work. Keep finding what does work. EDITED - This forum exists to help those who come looking for encouragement and support during a difficult time in their lives. Your ideas and suggestions are welcome. However, you must treat everyone with respect, refraining from rudeness -even if or when you may not agree with what they are saying or doing in their lives. You must comply with the DivorceBusting.com Board Rules if you would like to continue the privilege of posting here. be strong and positive.