If our LD partners only knew the depth of our despair-that it isn't about getting off, about power or control or winning but a deep-seated need for connection and acknowledgment that we have truly emotionally touched our partners, I think they'd see us (and sex) in a whole new light.
Hi Kelly. I am a ld partner and I appreciate what you are saying. Thanks to you as well as other hd partners sharing on this site, I have come to believe what you are saying to be true. In my situation, my partner said things to me (such as "I just like sex") and treated me in a way that made me feel that the act of sex was more important than anything. I felt used and like he didn't really care about me/my feelings, just that he had sex. I am still struggling to heal from the fighting and I am still struggling to find some sort of balance between our differences. If I could ask anything of my partner, it would be for patience, compassion and acceptance that we are different people; and I would ask for support and (gentle) encouragement.
I hope that you and your partner are continuing to make progress and that you are no longer feeling sad.
