Hit by truck 2 months ago

[habitacker]

I am going to try and be blunt. You have heard it all before.
Married 12 years been together 20. 3 year old daughter and 7 year old son.
Two months ago wife told me she was done. She doesn't love me and has not for 5 years. I have been mentally abusive as my father was to my mom and myself. I don't ever remember being mad at my wife, i was just mean and grumpy and she was my vent. She never fought back. I wish she would have.
At first i instantly went into pursuit mode until i got DB book and some others about a week ago. I watched video on Walk away Wife and saw my wife. I am now in 180. I have learned so much in a week. It is hard being patient.
I think it would be helpful if my wife knew she was a WAW. Does anyone agree with me on this. Or should I stick to the 180. She shows no effort in trying to fix marriage.
Thanks.