how long do you do no contact?

[MrBond]

rysmom,

I notice you haven't responded to the questions I asked. You simply can't "will" your H to come back.

Have you tried making yourself more desirable in the way that he wants? Have you been condemning or accepting? What have you done to show you're different? Or will you stay the same?

Answer those questions and things will start getting better. But start being honest with yourself first. Why would he want to come back to you?