Talked to stbx for over an hour today. He asks about my mom, says he wants her address to send flowers. Lots of the same but a more open conversation. I think I was right about the FB girl beign bl-w job girl. He said he hasn't seen/been out w/ anyone since her, that he won't til D is over, taht I should do waht I have to and if that means going out w/ dudes, to do it. he asked where I was Saturday, my car, etc. I say at my sister's. I don't want to give him nitty gritty details. Why does he care if he'd the one wanting D? Makes no sense. It was a good conversation, him say8ing or a long time he was waiting for a "miracle" to happen w/ us... Okaaay. More talk about the house, "if you want it you can have it Sol." I said if that's truly what you want then have your L write it up and send it to mine...my position is I want a settlement in exchange for title.. he sort of deson't even acknowledge that on the phone. More talk about us and etc. How he really loves me, he doesn't believe I will ever meet anyone who loves me the way he does/did (?!) and he will never get married again, he may meet someone & spend the night w/ them and taht's as far as it will go.
I took IR's advice and told him after D, there is no more "us." He told me to do what I had to do if I felt that is best... Told him that I cannot be here for him after, etc... I said I don't want to be M to someone who doesn't want to be M'ed to me andt aht I agree w/ him, it's best to D if we can't give eachother what we need... that I rather spend my time w/ someone who wants to spend time w/ me as sopposed to someone D'ing me. He said he will call late cause I had to get of phone.
It's a lot of hurry up and talk sh-t, honestly. Nothing has changed. We have a nice conversation but the end result is always him saying D is the best thing. So I agree with him. It isn't what I want but I do not want to be w/ someone who doesn't want that. Moving forward, I'm not sure how'd we repair this cause he seems to not mention any of his faults... He seems to think it was all me. I'd rather be alone than in a constant fight. You can't be M'ed to someone who doesn't want to try to work things out. It's a one-sided R. And ti's a waste of time.
Originally Posted By: v1olin
This is exactly why the Gucci approach works! Nobody likes to be dumped!
Lol. Hadn't thought about that...
It's all silly. Very.
IR and CG--you both made good points. If you havent before, you should read my original post on DB. Stbx was emo. abusive. I know that. It's weird thinking I started posting here about a year ago.
So... I should prob stop talking to him but I did like our conversation today even if the result is the same. Felt clearer.
