(((GW))) I think that the hardest thing about a marriage crisis is the illusion that someone else is in control of our happiness and well-being, and that their actions and inactions rule our world. Of course, that's not real. It's hard to believe that once we were happy, sad, and everything in between before we even met our spouses. This is a good time for you to cultivate detachment, even during the process of piecing.
You may recognize the passage below (not my words):
A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man's life. However, if she is the most important thing, then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service. She will feel her man's dependence on her for his happiness, and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging. A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose--and also to love her fully. Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose.
Be kind to yourself. This is very hard.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
