I am also needing help in defining goals. Small goals that is. "I want to stay married to my wife", is a pretty big goal, how do downsize this to stay motivated and hopeful??
You're on the right track by keeping them small and attainable but most importantly they need to be about what you can control.
I can't stress the importance of writing them down as well.....Look at them often, monitor your results. Ask yourself if what you're doing is really getting where you want to go. Some of the larger goals will require a great deal of patience and time.
As far as specifics go? I don't know??
Maybe maintaining a positive attitude no matter what when you interact with her.
Steering clear of relationship talks?
Validating the way she feels.
Exercising /living a healthier lifestyle.
Did she have any complaints about you that you think were legit? This one can be a bit tricky. Many of them will come up with anything and everything under the sun to justify their reasons for leaving. It's up to you to sift through those and figure out if there are any truths behind them.
Taking a good honest look at yourself and working hard toward changing whatever it is you think you need work on is key. The kicker is, you must do these for you and ONLY you. Nothing or no one else.
Just throwing out a couple of ideas out there I guess...
