I saw your post to Sandi, and I'm going to give you an opinion that others might not agree with and you might not want to hear. OM doesn't love you. He might love the thrill, he might love the excitement or PEA, but he doesn't truly love you. He can't. You've never met in person. He doesn't really know you. So stop your thinking about that.
You want to know who does love you, even if he is lousy at showing it, it is your H and your children.
You are smart enough and stong enough to do this
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11