He did the exact same thing last xmas, didn't he! Really horrible build up, wanted out just the same. He cannot handle the xmas season at all, brings it all out in him.
I get that you do not want to stand in the way of his choice, but can you ask him to postpone it until after xmas for the kids at least?
How concerned are you for your safety right now, Fallgirl? I know that you also felt this way last xmas, do you feel the need to defuse the situation as a top priority in this area, or do you think he is just blowing of steam?
