Is there OW involved? It sounds like he may be having an A.
You are doing a good job, Cajun.
I don't believe he is having an affair. The last time he was unhappy and wanted to leave I am 100% positive that there was no one else, so he does have a pattern of this. He's living in an apartment not far from my house. This is a small town - I would have been told by now if he'd been seen out and about with another woman. We work for the same company, and I am friends with people who work in his group - they haven't seen anything suspicious.