I don't see much here on how to actually confront a cheating spouse and need some help.
Been married 12 years and known each other 25, 3 kids, 2 dogs. We've been best friends and having some issues the past year. We've faced tough challenges before, and I thought we'd brave through these. We talked about separation a couple months ago, but never did it.
I just found out she's been cheating on me for the past few months. Not just in a sexual way, but she thinks she loves him. I had asked her about three months ago and she said I was crazy, then I asked a couple more times and she blew me off telling me I was just jealous. She used the love I have for her against me. I'm beyond devastated.
Now I see that she's been lying to me, our kids and everyone else. I need to confront her about it, but not sure how to do it. Do I take all the documentation I have? I have a lot -- conversations, dates ... everything.
I thought about just filing, but wanted to give her one more chance to save her family. It's bad though -- tons of lying, text messages under someone else's name, the OM even blocked me on Facebook. I just don't know how to approach it. Don't want her wall to just go up and end up in a screaming match.
Oh, and by the way. If you're gut says something just isn't right ... it isn't. I feel like a fool. She's still lying now, telling me that she cares about me while being with this guy. Any help would be great, I want to do this soon.
Me 41; H 41 M:11, T:12 Bomb (love, but not in love): Sept 10 began DBing: Sept 10 OM: Nov 10
