feel love thumping at the doors of my heart again

[flowmom]

So do you still get much personal time while juggling a lover? That is my latest concern...mothering, being a girlfriend, working and still having some time to self.

I have a long way to go to find balance. Interestingly though, my counselor is encouraging me to make space in my life for this relationship. She says that not meeting the needs that this relationship is meeting will undermine my life in other areas. It's a different perspective because I've been feeling like I've been "stealing" time/energy to "indulge" myself by spending time with Guitarist. She gave me credit for knowing what I need and pursuing it. Obviously I still need to up my earning and she is continuing to try to help me with that, but she wants me to look at the time cultivating a new relationship as positive and worth making time/space for.

Basically, where there's a will, there's a way .

Some of the time that I've spent with Guitarist is when my children are at home -- he comes after they go to bed and leaves in the wee hours. So I am not completely reliant on childcare/fathercare time to spend time with Guitarist.

Also, a guy with his own children will be busy too. Both M and Guitarist were very understanding about my time limitations, and glad to be with someone in the same situation as them schedule-wise.