What's da haps, man?

[ImprovedRomeo]

All the WASs are emotional and verbal abusers to some extent. Heck I was accused of being an emotional abuser by STBXW and perhaps in my desperation I did say some things that could be viewed as such but I said them with a different intent altogether. Everyone's situation is different and only we (should) know what our spouses are like and perhaps CG is right here and I'm wrong. However, from what I know about your H, CG's H or BBJ's H, while there maybe some similarities I don't think they're even in the same category as your H. For one thing your H doesn't spew this type of sh*t while being in very commited relationships. Two, your H only starts with this when you engage him. He was quiet for a while until you texted him after your court date. I'm not saying what you did was wrong etc but just pointing out that your texting became the catalyst for him to share his 'thoughts' with you.

However, most of the WASs do manipulate the situation, play the victim, make it all your fault etc. They also like to know we're available as a fall back option even though they know we're no longer their first choice. Yes pretty basic stuff but important to understand in order to evaluate your situation before you go looking for PhDs and industry leading experts to get help.

BTW, when CG and I disagree it's a war but as a benefit you get two different point of views to choose from. Thankfully though CG and I can have our extreme differences and still love eachother, right CG?